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Shaikh -u I -Arab Wal Ajam Arifbillah 
Hazrat-e-Aqdas Moufana Shah Hakeem 

MUHAMMAD AKHTAR 5AHEB {Aha** 



KUTUB KHANA MAZHARI 
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Shaikh-ul-Arab Wal-Ajam 

Arifbillah Hazrat-e-Aqdas 

Moulana Shah Hakeem 

Muhammad Akhtar Saheb 

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® Important Details ® 



Name Of The 
Lecture: 



THE RIGHTS OF 

HUSBAND 



Lecturer: 



Shaikh-ul-Arab Wal-Ajam 
Arifbillah Hazrat-e-Aqdas 
Moulana Shah Hakeem 

Muhammad Akhtar Saheb 

May His Shadow Remain Over Us 
For A Hundred And Twenty Years 



Date: 


30 th Rajabul Murajjab 1410 A.H. 




26 th February 1990 A.D. 


Day & Time: 


Monday, 11. am 


Place: 


Lanasia (South Africa) 


Composing : 


Syed Azeem-ul-Haq Haqqui 


1st Edition: 


Rabi-ul-Awwal 1 430 ah. March: 200 


Copies: 


1000 



Piaster 
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® CONTENTS 



S.No. 


Topic 


Page 


1. 


Who Possesses The Right To Tell 
Us How We Should Lead Our Life 


6 


2. 


The Cure For The Hard-Heartedness 
And Negligence 


8 


3. 


When And Upon Whom Should 
We Sacrifice The Life 


12 


4. 


Explaining The Insident Of 
Mi'raaj By An Example 


13 


5. 


The Reason For Death Being 
Mentioned Before Life 


15 


6. 


The Method Of Creating Enthusiasm And 
Devotion In The Remembrance Of Allah Ta'ala 


17 


7. 


The Curse Of Rasulullah (-^^LlL) is 
Upon Those Who Cast Evil Glances 


18 


8. 


(Zina) Adultery of The Eyes 
And The Tongue 


19 


9. 


A New Name For Immodesty 


21 


10. 


The Importance Of (Purdah) 


21 


11. 


Three Tests Of Allah Ta'ala 
Upon His Servants 


22 


12. 


Test Of Intelligence And Understanding 


23 


13. 


The Test Of Taqwa (Piety) And Abstinence 


23 


14. 


Test Of Obedience 


24 


15. 


Wisdom Of Aziz jtj* Being 
Revealed With Ghafur jj^ 


24 


16. 


SOME ADVICES FOR WOMEN 


25 


1. 


Please Your Husband 


25 


2. 


Do Not Complain To Your Parents 
About Your Husband 


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S.No. 


Topic 


Page 


3. 


Do Not Be Ungreatful And Unappreciative 
Towards Your Husband 


26 


4. 


A Wazifah To Soften The Husband's Heart 


27 


5. 


To Live In Congeniality With One's 
Mother-in-Law Is A Sign Of Intelegence 


28 


6. 


Study The Seventh Part Of Behisti Zewar 


29 


7. 


Don't Be Extravagant And Wasteful 


30 


8. 


Do Not make Excessive Demands 
On Your Husband 


30 


9. 


The Correct Aveneue For Utilizing Wealth 


32 


10. 


Before Marriage, It Is Haraam 
For A Girl To Meet Her Fiance 


33 


11. 


Without Necessity, Do Not Converse 
With Non-Mahrams (Strange Men) 


36 




IMPORTANT GUIDELINES REGARDING 


38 




GIRL'S MADRASAS 




12. 


The Law Regarding Nail Polish And Lipstick 


39 


13. 


Women Who Cut Their Hair Are Inviting The 
Curse Of Allah Ta'ala And Rasulullah (4siM^) 


40 


14. 


Women Should Cover 
Their Shins And Ankles 


40 


15. 


Observing Purdah In Front Of One's Brother-in-Law 


40 




Observing Purdah From One's Sister-in-Law 


42 


16. 


Command For Purdah Of The Hair 


42 


17. 


The Impermissibilty Of Wearing 
Thin Transparent Clothing 


43 


18. 


Wear Burqa When Leaving The Home 


43 


17. 


From Who Should Observe Shar'i Purdah 


44 


18. 


EMPLOYMENT 


45 


19. 


A means Of Disgrace For a Woman 






DU'A 


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Dear respected elders, brothers, sisters and daughters! Allah 
has revealed the Qur'aan Majeed for our guidance, so that each 
and every person can live his life in accordance to the pleasure 
of Allah Ta'ala. In the 29th juz (para) of the Qur'aan Majeed, in 
Surah Mulk, Allah Ta'ala has mentioned that this world is a 
place of examination, and that He has sent us in this world to 
test us. He has not sent us into this world to enjoy a life of luxuary 
and pleasure. Therefore, to follow the path of Nafs (evil soul) 
and Shaytaan, to displease one's Master, and to suffer the 
consequences of the punishment of the grave thereafter, is 
utter foolishness and contrary to the dictates of intelligence. 

WHO POSSESSES THE RIGHTTOTELL US 
HOW WE SHOULD LEAD OUR LIVES? 

In this world, there is no one who possesses the right to tell us 
how we should lead our lives. Not America, not Africa, not 
Russia not Japan! There is absolutely no one who has the right 
to tell us in which manner we should live our lives. The only 
one who possesses this right is Allah Ta'ala, Who bestowed 
His Beloved Rasul (4#4ii~)> the Final Nabi, with this right 
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pleasure and happiness of Allah Ta'ala, that a person can 
acquire peace and comfort in this world and the hearafter. If a 
person displeases Allah Ta'ala, his True Master, then there is 
no one in the entire world that can bring him peace and 
comfort. There is no power and might greater than Allah Ta'ala, 
Our True Master. 

Many women have began going to cinemas, watching videos, 
listening to music, leaving their homes immodestly and living 
a life of disobedience to Allah Ta'ala. However, when the anger 
of Allah Ta'ala descends and one becomes afflicted with severe 
and life threatening illness like blood pressure, cancer and 
kidney stones, then all the comforts, luxuries and beauty of 
these women are reduced to nothing. Just this week here in 
South Africa, one of my friend's seventeen year old daughter 
passed away in an accident. She was not even married as yet. 
Therefore, whether male or female, one should constantly 
ponder over the fact, that we do not know when Allah Ta'ala 
is going to call us back to Him and when our reckoning will 
commence, when it will be said to us, "Inform Us! How did you 
pass your life?" 

My respected mothers, sisters and daughters! It is the great 
favour and bounty of Allah Ta'ala, that whoever follows the 
commands of Allah Ta'ala, be it male or female, then Allah 
Ta'ala has made the following promise in the Qur'aan Majeed: 

"Allah Ta'ala will grant him/her an enjoyable life." 

Allah Ta'ala will grant them a life of joy and happiness and a 
life of great peace and comfort. On the other hand, those 
people who disobey Allah Ta'ala will never acquire true peace 
and comfort. Similarly, that woman who goes against the 
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her Salaah, troubles her husband or disobeys Allah Ta'ala in 
any way, such a woman will never be able to lead a life of 
serenity. She will not acquire peace and contentment, and when 
the time of death approaches, the enjoyment of all disobedience 
will terminate. 

Hakeemul Ummat Mujaddidul-Millat Moulana Ashraf AH Saheb 
Thanwi ( J^\-jj) used to say that whichever man and woman 
wants to reform themselves, then they should make the 
following Muraqabah (meditation) on a daily basis, 
"My soul has left my body, I am now being bathed. Thereafter, I am 
being wrapped in my burial shroud, and then I am being placed into 
the pit of the grave, and heaps of sand are being thrown over me." 

THE CURE FOR HARD-HEARTEDNESS 
AND NEGLIGENCE 

Hakeemul Ummat Mujaddidul-Millat Moulana Ashraf AH 
Saheb Thanwi {JtJw-^j) the author of Bahishti Zewar and a 
very great Aalim (scholar of Deen) has mentioned, that 
whoever's heart has become hard, and instead of engaging 
in the remembrance of Allah Ta'ala, he is troubled by the desire 
to sin i.e. hardness has settled into his heart, which is termed 
as Qasa'wat in Arabic, then for the reformation of such a heart, 
a prescription has been mentioned in the Hadith Shareef. 
Hazrat Sayyidah Taahirah Ummul-Mumineen A'isha Siddiqa 
([{Xsitjj), the mother of the believers, the noble wife of Rasulullah 
(4^4^) and tne daughter of Hazrat Siddiq Akbar (^Jiiifj) 
was once asked by a woman, "O my mother! Nowadays my heart 
is not inclined to performing Salaah and reciting the Quraan 
Shareef. My heart has become hard. What should I do? Ummul- 
Mumineen A'isha Siddiqa (i^iiijj) replied, "Do just one thing. 
Reflect over death daily, that the time of my death has come. 
My family, my elegant clothing and my beautiful home have 
all left me." After a few days, the same woman came back and 
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May Allah Ta'ala reward you abundantly. My heart has 
established a connection with Allah Ta'ala, and the hardness 
of my heart has been removed. Now, I am getting enjoyment 
in my Salaah and I am also getting enjoyment in my recitation 
of the Qur'aan Shareef." 

In the light of this Hadith Shareef, Hakeemul Ummat Mujaddidul 
Millat Moulana Ashraf Ali Saheb Thanwi (Jtjlil%?j) has mentioned 
that whose heart has become hard, he is unable to discard sins, 
he does not possess the fear of Allah Ta'ala, and whenever 
the desire to sins arises, he hastens towards sin like a lunatic, 
he does not have the slightest perception of servitude and 
obedience to Allha Ta'ala, that he is the creation and slave of 
some Great Being, and that he belongs to a Supreme Master, 
for such foolish and hard-hearted people, Hazrat {Jcjw-jj) 
has mentioned an amazing and wonderful cure, which has 
proven to be one hundred percent beneficial. If Allah Ta'ala 
wills, any person, be it male or female practices upon this 
preception,then his/her relationship with Nafs and Shaytaan 
will be severed. What is this cure? On the daily basis, just 
before sleeping meditate for five minutes that Allah Ta'ala has 
called me and the time of death has come. My soul has departed 
from my body. People have gathered and are now bathing 
me. After bathing me, they are wrapping me in my burial shroud. 
Thereafter, they are taking me to the graveyard. My parents, 
my wife and children, my business, my beautiful carpets, my 
elegant clothing, my gold and silver jewellery are all being 
left behind. The people have taken me to the graveyard and 
placed me into the pit of the grave and heaps of sand have 
been thrown over me. All of them have left and it is as if I am 
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"O you have brought us to thegrave, Heartfelt thanks 

and gratitide to you! 

From this stage on, I will be travelling alone. " 

It is as though the person who passes away always reads this 
poem; 

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"After burying me in thegrave, all have left, not making 

Du'anorSalam, 

In such a short space of time, howthe times have changed. " 

No one has come with you in the grave. Everyone has left you. 
Neither one's husband, nor one's children will be of any help. 
You are all alone in the grave. Now you are being questioned 
in the grave, "Who is your rabb?" Now meditate that the Day of 
Qiyamah has dawned upon you and you are being presented 
in front of Allah Ta'ala. Allah Ta'ala is asking, "O woman! 
How did you use your youth? Where did you use your eyes? Did 
you perform Salaah or not? Did you fast or not? Did you 
observe Purdah from Na-mahrams (those with whom marriage 
is permissible) and strange males? If your actions are good, 
you will be blessed with Jannah, and if your actions were evil, 
then the angels will drag and fling you into the fire of Jahannam. 
All enjoyments will be completely destroyed. 

This world is a place of trial. We have come here for a few days. 
For the sake of Allah Ta'ala, let us all have mercy upon our 
souls! Let us not look at the temporary enjoyment of just a few 
days. Let us look at the everlasting life that Allah Ta'ala is 
going to give all in the Hereafter. May Allah Ta'ala guide us all 
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I was saying that for the purpose one's reformation, one should 
think about the graveyard daily. Think that how a young girl 
of seventeen, who was not even married as yet passed away 
in an accident. Like this, how many countless other girls are 
asleep in their graves? Therefore, do not think that when we 
become old, then we will become Allah's Walis (the friends 
of Allah Ta'ala), and then we will prepare for Jannah. This is 
completely foolishness, because Allah Ta'ala also gives death 
during childhood, and Allah Ta'ala also gives death during 
youth. Whomsoever Allah Ta'ala desires, at whichever time He 
desires, Allah Ta'ala calls to Himself. 

Whilst I was studying in Tibiyyah (Medical) College in llahabad 
(India), I had an eighteen year old companion who used to 
come with me to college. He suddenly fell sick, and after a 
week he passed away. At that time, I had gone home to my 
village for holidays. When I returned, I went to his house and 
knocked at the door. His mother came out. I then enquired, 
"Where is my classmate, where is my friend?" She replied, "He 
is lying in the graveyard." So from this we learn, that there is 
no reliance in life. 

Madrasah Sawlatiya is situated in the vicinity of the Haram 
Shareef(oi Makkah Mukarramah). The principal's brother was 
forty five years old and was perfectly healthy. He suffered from 
no apparent sickness. One day, whilst drinking a cup of tea, 
the cup fell from his hands and he passed away. Therefore, one 
should be concious of death at all times. Our Buzurgs (pious 
elders) always read this poem for the sake of our guidance: 

"No one knows at which time our Beloved will call us, 
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WHEN AND UPON WHOM 
SHOULD WE SACRIFICE OUR LIVES? 

We do not know when Allah Ta'ala will call. No one has the 
guarantee of how long we are going to live, therefore how can 
one have this thought that when we will become old, we will 
perform Hajj and engage in excessive Ibaadat. My respected 
mothers, sisters and daughters! When you place an order for 
meat, then do you order the meat of an old goat or of a young 
goat? Listen carefully to what I am saying! Tell me! Which 
part of life is better? Is it youth or old age? Which is the best 
part of life? Youth! So what gift do you want to present to Allah 
Ta'ala and the Rasul (4aMS^) ? Youth or old age? We should 
feel ashamed of ourselves, and we should repent to Allah Ta'ala. 
What do you think of Allah Ta'ala and one Rasulullah (4^Mn!~*)' 
that when we have become old, and are now wearing thick 
spectacles, our backs have become bent, someone has become 
a grandmother and someone has become a grandfather, then 
at this age we want to start thinking of Allah Ta'ala. This is an 
act of ingratitude! The youth that Allah Ta'ala has bestowed 
us with, should be sacrificed for Him alone. Do not run after 
outward appearances. Repent from this form of idol-worship! 
These are all temporary things which will come to an end. 
Do you not realise that a girl who is sixteen years old today, 
will one day become a grandmother. She will have to wear thick 
spectacles, she will not have any teeth left in her mouth and 
she will walk with her back bent. This is the case with the boys 
also. Today that sixteen or eighteen year old boy, who looks so 
handsome, after a few days, his rosy cheeks will become pressed 
together, his teeth will fall out, his hair will become white, he 
will be wearing thick magnifying-glass like spectacles, and he 
will become an old man. A couplet of mine is based on this: 

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The back has become bent like a bow, 

Someone has becomea grandfather, and 

someonehasbecomeagrandmother. 

Therefore, don't run after outward beauty. Remember your 
Allah Ta'ala. When the punishment of the grave begins, all the 
enjoyment of sin will be quickly forgotten. Place your finger on a 
burning matchstick or on a hot pan, and you will come to know. 
What a carefree attitude we have? We do not fear the punishment 
of the Hearafter, whereas the one who has informed us is Saadiq 
(truthful) and Ameen (trustworthy), he is such a person whose 
enemies even gave testimony to his truthfulness. Therefore, 
whatever Allah Ta'ala's Beloved Rasul (4^^u) has said, let 
us believe in it, and let us have firm conviction on it. 

EXPLAINING THE INCIDENTS 
OF MI'RAAJ BY AN EXAMPLE 

For example, a fish comes to the surface of the river and sees 
that some fishermen have come to catch us. These fishermen 
have with them nets and knives. This fish, on seeing all this, 
goes back to inform all the other fish, "Listen! there are 
fishermen present on the banks of the river. Be careful! They 
have come with nets, bait and knives also. If you fall into their 
nets, or you bite onto their bait, they will catch you. Then, they 
will cut you into small pieces with their knives. After heating 
the oil, they will fry you over a fire. Then thirty two teeth will chew 
on you and eat you up. Your bones will be chewed by cats and 
dogs." The other fish say, "This fish is making us fool. Eat the 
bait and enjoy yourselves! We cannot see any nets, knives, 
fishermen or fire here." The fish become heedless and uncon- 
cerned, and in this condition of heedlessness, they eat the bait 
which the fishermen have placed on the hooks. When the 
fishermen catch them and take them out of the water, then 
they are convinced that the fish who had warned them had 
spoken the truth. The fishermen then cut these fish up into 
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each fisherman chew on the fish. Their bones are then given to 
cats and dogs to chew on. Now they come to know that the 
other fish had spoken the truth. However, believing now is of 
no benefit. If they had believed without seeing, then they would 
not have had to see this day. Those who had believed in what 
the fish had warned them about were saved. 

During Mi'raj, Rasulullah (-4*i|dj)i»). went to the heavens and 
saw the world of the Hearafter. Rasulullah (4^4^) saw 
Jannah and Jahannam. He was also blessed with the vision 
of Allah Ta'ala and even spoke to Allah Ta'ala. Even the 
non-believers used to say regarding Rasulullah (4^4^): 

"You (i.e. Rasulullah 4gMl!W are yer Y 
truthful and extremely trustworthy. " 

Therefore, we should believe in whatever Rasulullah (4siM^u) 
has told us. By not believing and accepting what Rasulullah 
(4-aH^L,) h as told us, one is inviting trouble and this will 
inevitably lead to one's destruction. 

I will now present the Tafseer (explanation) of the verse of 
Surah Mulk which I had recited earlier on. Allah Ta'ala mentions 
in the Qur'aan Shareef: 

"Extremely blessed and magnificent is that Being, 

Who is the True Owner of Kingdoms and Lands. 

And He has power over everything." 

If Allah Ta'ala so wishes, He can make a poor person rich, and 
if He so wishes He can make a rich person poor. He can afflict 
a healthy person with paralysis and make him completely weak, 
and He can bring disgrace to a person of honour. Allah Ta'ala 
has such power, that a perfectly healthy person can go to bed at 
night and in the morning he can wake up with blood cancer 
, or stones in the kidneys. Allah Ta'ala has control over everything. 

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THE REASON FOR DEATH BEING 
MENTIONED BEFORE LIFE 
Thereafter Allah Ta'ala mentions, 

"Allah Ta 'ala is that Being Who created death and life. " 

Allah Ta'ala first mentioned death. My Murshid (spiritual guide), 
Shah Abdul Cham Saheb {Jtjri-jj) was regarded amongst the 
great and senior Auliya-Allah (friends of Allah Ta'ala). He was 
also my Ustaad (teacher). He once said to me, "I ask you, does 
death come first or does life come first?" Does this question 
not arise, that if there was no life (in the first place), how can 
death ever come about? However, Allah Ta'ala mentioned death 
before life, thereby indicating to us that you should always be 
concious of death, otherwise you will get involved in the joys 
and pleasures of a foreign land (i.e. the Dunya) and you will 
end up destroying the homeland of Aakhirat (the Hearafter)." 
Today, whoever remain concious of death, is in actual fact 
living the life of an Allah-Wala (a person who has connection 
with Allah Ta'ala). (In this manner) Both male and female can 
become Auliya-Allah (friends of Allah Ta'ala). 

Rabiah Basriyyah (l^fjii^j) was an extremely great Waliullah 
(friend of Allah Ta'ala). Many other women who were Auliya- 
Allah have passed, but there were some whose piety even 
surpassed that of the men. An Allah-wala Buzurg once purchased 
a slave-girl. This slave-girl woke up at one o'clock in the mornig 
and began offering Tahajjud Salah. She was making the 
following Du'a, to Allah Ta'ala "O Allah! By virtue of the love 
that You have for me, accept my Du'as." In the meantime, the 
Buzurg had also awoken, and he also heard the Du'a of the 
slave-girl. The Shaikh asked, "Dear girl! How do you know that 
Allah Ta'ala loves you? What proof do you have forthis claim?" 
The slave-girl replied, "The proof of this is that my Lord has 
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called me into His presence. This is the proof of love, that whilst 
you were lying down (and resting) on your bed, Allah Ta'ala 
gave me the ability to make Wudu, and stand before Him to 
perform Tahajjud Salah. 

That is why Allah Ta'ala mentioned, 

"Allah Ta 'a la created death and life. " 

My Shaikh mentioned that in this (i.e. the mentioning of death 
before life) there is powerful advice, that one should never 
forget death throughout one's life. In this blessed verse of Surah 
Mulk, Allah Ta'ala is telling us that We have created death, and 
We have also created life, whereas (in actual fact) life comes 
first (before death). Therefore, it stands to reason that logically 
speaking (i.e. according to our deficient logic) iJJ- i.e. life 
should have been mentioned first i.e. I give life and after that 
I give death, however, Allah Ta'ala mentioned death first. The 
Ulama Kiraam (the learned scholars of Deen) have mentioned 
under the commentary of this verse, that death has been 
mentioned first for this reason, that those people who forget 
death, their lives are worse than that of animals. Those who do 
not prepare for the hereafter, will hasten towards sin like people 
who have lost their minds, will frequent the cinema, watch movies 
and pornographic films, listen to (haraam on) the radio, and 
Allah knows best what other obscenities have come into existence 
today; such people will fall headlong into all these evils. It is 
for this reason, that Allah Ta'ala has favoured His servants by 
mentioning death first, in order to test us. "Is my servant keeping 
death in front of him or not? Is he keeping his homeland i.e. the 
hereafter in mind or not?" The one who lives such a life in which 
death is always kept in front of one, then such a person will live 
the life of an Allah-Wala, and the one who lives his life in such 
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Therefore, the one who has not been given the ability to stay 
away from sins, and his heart is not inclined towards worship 
of Allah Ta'ala, then understand well that such a person is 
far away from Allah Ta'ala. Have great concern and worry! At 
first, force yourself to make Ibadat, (acts of worship). Put 
pressure on your Nafs to leave sins. Make your Nafs into a 
slave. Thereafter, Allah Ta'ala will give you the pleasure of His 
worship 

THE MATHOD OF CREATING ENTHUSIASM 

AND DEVOTION IN THE REMEMBRANCE OF 

ALLAH TA'ALA 

My respected brothers, mothers, sisters and daughters! At first, 
you should force yourself to engage in the remembrance of 
Allah Ta'ala. Form the habit of forcing yourself to make Zikrullah. 
Thereafter, it will become a habit and you will never leave it out, 
just as a person who is unable to give up the habit of eating 
Paan (Beetle-leaves) or partaking of tobacco.* If one who has 
never tasted tobacco in his life is given some to taste, he will 
most likely throw up. However, once the habit is formed, and if 
it happens such that they do not get it, then these who are 
habitual of eating Paan and tobacco go around asking like 
crazy people, "Where can I get some Paan? Where can I get 
some Paan?" When one gets into the habit of evil things then 
it is difficult to leave it. Therefore, when one forms the good 
habit of making Zikr, then Insha-Allah (by the Will of Allah 
Ta'ala), one will not be able to sleep without remembering 
Allah Ta'ala. Those people who (go to sleep and) snore loudly 
without remembering Allah Ta'ala, are the very ones who are 
negligent, and have not yet tasted the enjoyment of the Name 
of Allah Ta'ala. 

Just as the lover of tobacco asks, "Where can I get some 
(tobacco) Paan?" In a similar manner the Aashiqs (lovers) of 

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Allah Ta'ala ask the Allah Walas (the friends of Allah Ta;ala 
"Where can we find Allah Ta'ala?" How do we find Allah Ta'ala?" 
We have understood the love of Paan, but why can't we 
understand the love of Allah Ta'ala? It is only those males and 
females that are fortunate, who attain the love of Allah Ta'ala. 
They ask, "How can we find Allah Ta'ala?" (The answer to this 
is that) Allah Ta'ala can be found through His ibadat, and by 
shunning sin. It can never be such that a woman struts around 
unveiled and she becomes a friend of Allah Ta'ala. 

THE CURSE OF RASULULLAH (4^4^) IS 
UPON THOSE WHO CAST EVIL GLANCES 

Therefore, be it male or female, whoever commits sin (and 
disobeys Allah Ta'ala), he/she has invited the curse of Allah 
Ta'ala to rain down upon one's self. Hazrat Khatamul-Mursaleen 
4gHi!^ ( Tne Seal of Prophethood 4#4li~) has mentioned, 

"May the curse of Allah Ta 'ala be upon the one who 
casts evil glances and those adorn themselves 
so that people may cast evil glances at them. " 

This is the Hadith Shareef (of Nabi 4gMl!i*) Huzoor Sayyidul 
Ambiya (4sMHJ-) has mentioned, "May the curse of Allah Ta'ala 
be upon that man who casts evil glances at women, and may 
the curse of Allah Ta'ala be upon that woman who (adorns 
herself and) allows (strange) men to look at her." In order to 
avoid wearing Burqa (head gear), the excuse is given that it is 
too hot, but when it is time to cook Shami kabab and Biryani 
over the stove, then one does not complain that it is too hot! 
For the sheer greed of filling the stomach with Shami kabab 
and Biryani, one is ready to tolerate the heat without complaint, 
but when it comes to matters regarding the Commands of 
Allah Ta'ala, then all sorts of excuses are made. Tell me! Will 
not the curse of Allah Ta'ala descend upon such people? 

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The curse of Allah Ta'ala descends on both the man (who 
casts evil glances) as well as the woman who roams around 
unveiled. This is the curse of Rasulullah (4#4lM- Nowadays, 
people fear the curses of the Walis (pious friends of Allah 
Ta'ala) and the Peers (spiritual guides), but they do not fear 
the curse of Rasulullah (4aMiu), who is that being by virtue 
of whose servitde, one is able to acquire Buzurgi and Peeri 
(i.e. to become pious and acquire the friendship of Allah Ta'ala). 

Therefore, whenever one has the desire to look at a handsome 
boy, or a beautiful girl, then immediately remember the curse 
of Rasulullah (i^^u). We should ask ourselves, "What are we 
doing? We are inviting the curse of Rasulullah (4^4l^) u P on 
ourselves!" I have this grief, that when man becomes a slave 
of his Nafs (carnal self), and his connection with Allah Ta'ala 
becomes weak, then such foolish people do not even remember 
Allah Ta'ala at all. 

ZINA (ADULTERY) OF THE EYES 
AND THE TONGUE 
Tell me! When any beautiful girl or handsome boy comes before 
you, do you remember the Hadith of Bukhari Shareef: 

"Casting evil glances is Zina (adultery) of the eyes. " 

To cast lustful glances at strange males and females, and at 
handsome young lads is Zina (adultery) of the eyes. These are 
the words of Rasulullah (4aM;|p- Any male looking at a female 
with desire or any female looking at a male with desire, the 
ruling regarding such people is that this is Zina (adultery) of the 
eyes. 

"Speaking to a Non-Mahram with desire 
is Zina (adultery) of the tongue. " 

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Zina (adultery) of the tongue is when a man engages in idle 
talk with a woman, and makes this woman his friend. However, 
when one's Shah 'wat (carnal desires) are aroused, then where 
does one remember this Hadith, that Speaking to a Non-Mahram 
with desire is the Zina (adultery) of the tongue. Even some good, 
pious Deeni concious people do not remember. This is an 
indication of the hardness of the heart. It shows the weakness in 
one's connection with Allah Ta'ala. It seems that such a person 
is not sincere. If his intention was correct, and establishing a 
connection with Allah Ta'ala was his objective, then he would 
have the worry and concern, that what am I doing. Such a 
person is the slave of his Nafs. He has not yet become a true 
slave of Allah Ta'ala, otherwise he would have definitely 
remembered Allah Ta'ala, that what are we doing whilst Allah 
Ta'ala is watching us. Listen to one of my Urdu couplets. This 
couplet is especially for those people who think that no one is 
watching them. f 

G~ L)\fT Z f- &> j/ 

What you are doing hidden away from the 

people of the world, 
Someone is watching you from the heavens, 

When a girl looks at a boy or a boy looks at a girl, then Allah 
Ta'ala is watching their immodesty and shamelessness all the 
time. It is a Hadith of Bukhari Shareef, that to look at any 
Non-Mahram, or at the mother or daughter of someone, is 
adultery of the eyes. Similarly, for women to look at men, and 
for girls to look at boys with lustful gazes is also adultery of the 
eyes. Speaking to one another is adultery of the tongue. But 
what does the Nafs say, "Enjoy yourself for just a few days!" 
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A NEW NAME FOR IMMODESTY 
Today you call yourselves modern, and you take great pride in 
this, that your daughters are very modern, and they come out 
first in college, and their photographs are published in the 
newspapers. It is the height of immodesty that their photographs 
are published in the newspapers! Who are these people (who 
allow such things to happen)? These are our Muslim brothers. 
These are Haji Sahebs, (i.e. people who have performed Haj), 
who always have Tasbeeh in their hands, however when their 
daughter gets a first division pass, then they allow their pictures 
to appear in the newspapers and on television. What kind of 
Islam is this? 

THE IMPORTANCE OF PURDAH 
On one occasion, two of the blessed wives of Nabi (4#4!J*). 
our respected mothers, were sitting in the house of Nabi (4al^ u )- 
A blind Sahabi by the name of Hazrat Abdullah Ibn Umme 
Maktoom (^Jjiifj), then came to Nabi (4^4!i-)- Nabi (i^^M 
commanded his wives, 

"Veil yourselves!" 
The wives of Nabi (4aMi^) replied, 

"Is he not blind?" 

Rasulullah (4#4lM replied, 

"O my wives! Are you also blind? 
Can you not see him?" 



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Allahu-Akbarl Rasulullah (i^J^,) made his two wives veil 
themselves from the blind Sahabi. The amount of sin that men 
get for looking at Non-Mahram women, is the same for women 
who look at Non-Mahram men. It is also forbidden for women 
to look at Non-Mahram men. 

THREE TESTS OF ALLAH TA'ALA 
UPON HIS SERVANTS 

Allah Ta'ala mentions: 

O men and women! O people of Imaan (faith)! Listen. We 
have not sent you (into this world) to frequent the cinemas, or 
to watch videos and live a life of luxury and enjoyment. We have 
sent you (into this world) to test you. 

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So that Allah Ta'ala can test us to see whether we tread the 
path of our desires, or do we live our lives according to the 
happiness and commands of Allah Ta'ala. 

Allama Alousi As-Sayyid Mahmood Baghdad - ! ( JtJD^j), has 
narrated in Ruhul Ma'am, three Tafseers (commentaries) of 
this verse from the tongue of Rasulullah (4^^) upon whom 
the Qur'aan was revealed. O my mothers and sisters! Listen 
attentively! Allah Ta'ala mentions: 






So that He (Allah Ta'ala) may test you i.e. both men and 
women, to see who are those who do good actions and who 
are those who obey Nafs and Shaytaan, and live lives of sin 
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TEST OF INTELLIGENCE 
AND UNDERSTANDING 

What is the first Tafseer (commentary) of }Li£^ 

So that Allah Ta'ala can test you, to see that who amongst you 
is intelligent, and who amongst you is foolish. Understand this 
well, that Allah Ta'ala wants to test you, both male and female, 
that from amongst you, who are those who are sensible, and who 
are those who are living their lives like that of foolish donkeys. 
What can be said of that person who does not live his life in 
accordance to the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala, but rather he lives 
his life in accordance to the pleasure of Shaytaan and does not 
refrain from sin? You tell me! Those people who do not follow 
the commands of Allah Ta'ala, are they intelligent or foolish 
people? They are none other than complete fools! Understand 
this well! 

THE TEST OF TAQWA (PIETY) 
AND ABSTINENCE 

What is the second Tafseer that Nabi (4^4^) mentioned? 

That is, Allah Ta'ala wants to test you, to see who will abstain 
from those things which Allah Ta'ala has decleared Haraam 
(forbidden) and has prohibited us from, and to see who will live 
a life of Taqwa (piety) and abstinence. Be it male or female, 
Allah Ta'ala has created you to test you, so that it can be known 
that the fortunate person is he who prepares himself for the 
examination. The life of pleasure and joy (for us) is in Jannah. 
May Allah Ta'ala, through His Infinite Mercy, grant us death 
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In Jannah, we will enjoy a life of pleasure and joy. This world 
is a place of examination. We should not try to build our 
Jannah in this world. Using our eyes and our ears in the same 
manner that animals use them! Is this the way to acquire 
Jannah? Look at what the Qur'aan has proclaimed, whoever 
dies in disobedience, his face will be blackened (on the Day 
Of Qiyamah). s, , , , $ , , ', $ „" ,, 

"On the Day of Qiyamah when the faces 
(of the pious people) will be bright and shining." 

And the faces of sinners will be black, like that of black faced 
monkeys which can be seen at the zoo. May Allah Ta'ala save 
all our faces from being blackened. 

THE TEST OF OBEDIENCE 

What is the third Tafseer (commentary)? 

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O men and women! Allah Ta'ala wants to test you, to see who 
from amongst you has great fervour and desire to worship 
Allah Ta'ala, and who from amongst you obeys Allah Ta'ala 
with enthusiasm. For example, when the time of Salaah has set 
in, does My servant hasten towards Salaah? Or the month of 
Ramzan has arrived, is My servant eager to fast, orwhen strange 
women appears before My servants, do they lower their gazes? 
Similarly, men are passing by, are the women lowering their 
gazes? Are they abstaining from backbiting and speaking lies? 
In short, are they at all times eager and desirous to obey the 
commands of Allah Ta'ala. 

WISDOM OF AZIZ jd> BEING 

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The meaning of Aziz is one who is extremely powerful. The 
meaning of Ghafoor is one who forgives and overlooks. 
Therefore, value and appreciate the forgivness of Allah Ta'ala, 
because when one who has strength and might forgives someone, 
then it is appreciated. Take an example of a person who is sick 
and weak. He is suffering from typhoid. If he says to someone, 
"Go! I have forgiven you", then the one who has been forgiven 
will say to him, "Sir, do you even have the strength to take 
revenge? What can you do to me?" However, Allah Ta'ala says, 
"I am extremely powerful. I can afflict a person with which ever 
punishment I so desire. If I desire, I can turn you into a swine or 
a dog, and I can afflict you with any disease that I desire, 
therefore, if I forgive your sins, then be grateful to Me." This is 
the Tafseerol these verses. 

SOME ADVICES FOR WOMEN 

Now, I wish to quickly mention to you a few points. Listen to it 
attentively, because the lecture is coming to an end and the 
coach (i.e. my lecture) is close to reaching the station. Therefore, 
I am mentioning some advice (which is specifically) for the 
womenfolk. 

CD PLEASE YOUR HUSBAND 

Do not displease your husband. Do not speak to him in a rude 
manner, otherwise all your Hajj and all your other ibadat (acts 
of worship) will be nullified. Nabi (4^^) has said, "That 
woman who disobeys her husband, hurts his feelings, does not 
respond when her husband calls her and in this condition the 
husband goes to sleep, then curses rain down upon such a 
woman throughout the night." Therefore, do not anger your 
husbands. If perchance, you happen to make a mistake, then 
seek his forgiveness and try to make him happy. Otherwise, 
you can sit with a Tasbeeh and make Zikr throughout the entire 
night but it won't be accepted. Sometimes the wife sees her 
husband sitting with a Tasbeeh and making Zikr, so she also 
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angry about? I can also sit with a Tasbeeh and make Z/fcr. I 
will recite in such a manner that you will lose all your senses. 
You have become a very big Peer and Sufi (dervish)! I will 
invoke such a curse on you, by counting the beads of the 
Tasbeeh backwards, that you won't have any tears left to cry." 
These are the types of fights that occur nowadays. Think that 
by saying such words and angering your husband, curses rain 
down upon you throughout the entire night. Therefore, the 
wives must ensure that they make their husbands happy and 
ask them forforgivness. 

(2) DO NOT COMPLAIN TO YOUR PARENTS 
ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND 

Do not go to your parents and complain about your husband. 
If your parents ask, "Does your husband arrange for clothing 
to be sewed for you?" then do not reply by saying, "Yes! He does 
get some rags sewn for me!" And if they ask you, "Does he buy 
you shoes?", then do not say, "Yes! He does buy some tattered 
worn-out shoes for me." And if they ask you, "Did he bring you 
some beatiful dishes?", then do not say, "Yes! He brought me 
some dog-bowels!" These points have in actual fact been 
extracted from the discourses of Hazrat Thanwi{JtJu\-jj) that 
the illness of ingratitude is inherent in women, and ingratitude 
is an extremely dangerous thing. Nabi (4#4ij~) has mentioned 
that many a woman will enter Jahannam due to being ungrateful 
towards their husbands, and due to finding faults with those 
things which were gifted to them by their husbands. Be happy 
and content, and see what high status and rank you will recieve 
in Jannah, Insha-Allahl 

(3) DONOTBEUNGREATFULAND 
UNAPPRECIATIVE TOWARDS 

YOUR HUSBAND 

Do not be unappreciative towards your husband. Be thankful 

and grateful towards him. Whatever house he gives you to live 

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he gives you to wear, then be grateful for the kindness and 
favours of Allah Ta'ala. Go to your parents and say to them, 
"Alhamdulillahl we are living very comfortably." To complain 
to your parents without any justification will upset them. If 
your husband causes you some difficulty, then too you should 
not reveal it to your parents. Perform two Rakaats of Salaatul 
Hajaat and cry in front of Allah Ta'ala, and I will also tell you 
of a Wazifah which you can recite. 

© A WAZIFAH TO SOFTEN 

THE HUSBAND'S HEART 

If your husband is troubling you, has a bad temper, and 
scolds you over trivial matters, then nothing will happen 
except that your parents will file a case against him, divorce 
will occur, your home will be destroyed and you will lose 
your children. Therefore, I will now show you a Wazifah (which 
will Insha-Allah solve your problems). Recite fUetyj^tyM+Zn 
seven times and blow onto some water, and when you are 
cooking, then use this water to cook. Also blow on drinking 
water. Insha-Allah, the entire house will become a manifestation 
of mercy, and the sickness of anger will be removed. 

I recieved a letter from a person in Jeddah in which he 
mentioned, "I am fighting with my wife. I am fighting with 
my children. All of us suffer from the sickness of anger. I wrote 
back to him saying, "When you lay down the Dastarkhan (table 
cloth), then recite ^^J^-"J^ ] ^ seven times over the food." 
After one month, I recieved a letter from him stating, "From the 
time I began reciting ^'^JJ-^^^j and blowing on the food 
and drink that we are partaking off, everyone's anger has 
subsided. The quality of mercy has come into all of us." As a 
result of the names of Rahmaan and Raheem, there was a 
manifestation of mercy. The quality of mercy became dominant 
in their hearts, Therefore, if you desire that your husband 
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and that the quality of anger should leave them, then recite 
this Wazifah seven times, thrice daily i.e. at breakfast, lunch 
and supper. Then you will see the mercy of Allah Ta'ala raining 
down Insha-Allah. 

The second Wazifah is to recite the following four Names of 
Allah Ta'ala, seven times in one's heart, in the presence of 
one's husband and then blow into the food and drink: 

> » * s .* *>*,{,, } ) ii .s flit .y 

ijij b jjOP b j/ij A3 b t- j**> b 

When your husband asks for water, then recite the following 
seven times and blow into the water: 

> > t s .s *>*,'., > } Si .s flit ,s 

If your mother-in-law is troubling you then recite ^^J**-^^^. 
and this Wazifah, and then blow into some water and give it 
to her to drink. Insha-Allah, your mother-in-law will start treating 
you like her daughter. 

(5) TO LIVE IN CONGENIALITY WITH 

ONE'S MOTHER-IN-LAW IS A 
SIGN OF INTELLIGENCE 
However, one should also keep this in mind, that one should 
not quarrel with one's mother-in-law. Consider the fact, that 
one day, you will also become a mother-in-law. If today, you 
are going to quarrel with your mother-in-law, then tomorrow 
your daughter-in-law will quarrel with you. Your mother-in-law 
brought your husband up. For fifteen to twenty years, she looked 
after and nurtured him. Now when you are his wife, it does not 
mean that you should be whispering into his ears all the time 
(i.e. complaining about his parents) and trying to decrease his 
loveforthem. No! Rather you should try to increase the love 
that he has for his parents. Explain to your husbands that 
they should honour their parents, and should always be 
considerate of them. It has been mentioned in a Hadith Shareef 
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respect them. Have respect for your elders, your juniors will 
respect you. Give with one hand, and take with the other 
hand. Assume that your mother-in-law has an anger problem, 
and is always stirring up a fuss, then recite ^*^ jJ-°)\ &\ ^ 
on the food on the Dastarkhan (tablecloth) which you are 
going to give your mother-in-law to eat. Recite it on the 
water as well. If it is the hot summer months, then recite it 
on some water and place it in the fridge, but don't do this in 
front of your mother-in-law otherwise she will see that you 
are reciting something and blowing, she will immediately give 
you a tight smack and say, "This wretched one is now doing 
some Jadu (black magic) on me!" You will be reciting 
( ^-}li.v^i4i ) 'r~!> but Shaytaan will whisper evil thoughts into 
her mind that, "Look!, she is doing Jadu on you." Therefore, 
when your mother-in-law goes to relieve herself i.e. she 
can't see you, then quickly recite ^^^■JJiaUIj-h seven times 
and ijiju; jj&ti J-jiiti £>iij seven times and blow on lots of 
water, and place it in the fridge. When your mother-in-law is 
thirsty, then give her this water to drink. Do not tell her that 
you have read and blown on the water, and also hide from your 
husband and read this, otherwise he may also get doubts about 
you, that perhaps she has become a black-magician, (and 
he will think that) I don't know why she is moving her lips. 

$^*J ] J*^"'J ] ^ t~i and, ijiju; '/jii-t J- jil U £>iii are the names 
of Allah Ta'ala. I say with firm conviction, that those husbands 
who were oppressing their wives (yesterday), by the blessing 
of this Wazifah, today they are living together with love and 
affection. 

Q) STUDY THE SEVENTH PART 

OFBAHISHTIZEWAR 

Continuously study the seventh part of Bahishti Zewar, whether 
it be in Gujrati, English or Urdu. Men should read it as well 
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corrected, because Its subject matter pertains to the reformation 
of one's character. Insha-Allah one will benefit tremendously. 

® DON'T BE EXTRAVAGANT 

AND WASTEFUL 
The seventh advice is that you should not be extravagant and 
wasteful in spending. Sometimes there is only need for one 
light to be kept on, yet ten are left on! More food than that 
which is required is cooked, and remainder is thrown away into 
dustbins! This is a grave disrespect and total ingratitude. 
Because of ingratitude, bounties are snatched away. Always 
take care that no extravagance or waste takes place. Spend 
the wealth of your husband in moderation and spend on 
necessity. 

® DO NOT MAKE EXCESSIVE DEMANDS 
ON YOUR HUSBAND 

The eighth advice is that, if there is a wedding taking place 
somewhere, then do not tell your husband to make a new 
outfit, because if there are four weddings in one month, then 
tell me, is your husband supposed to bring you a new outfit for 
each wedding? How much burden will fall on this poor person? 
From where will he get so much money? If he does have so 
much money, and assuming that the husband is very wealthy, 
then too it will not be permissible. On the contrary, it is the 
demand of Shari'ah and the command of Rasulullah (ig*£>%») 
that you should not emerge from your homes beautified, in 
which the laws of Hijaab are openly violated, just as the women 
of Jahiliyyah (the period of ignorance) used to do. Allah Ta'ala 
mentions in the Qur'aan Shareef: 

You should not move around following the habits and practices 
of the people of ignorance, just as in the period of Jahiliyyah 
(ignorance), to strut around unveiled was the hall mark of the 
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those ignorant women, and come out of your homes. If you have 
to attend a wedding, then wear simple clothing. Wear your 
oldest clothing which has been used the most and go. To wear 
new outfits and to go out and intermingle with strange men is 
totally Haraam (strictly forbidden). It is a major sin. Allah Ta'ala 
has granted you so many outfits, your cupboards are filled 
with clothing, yet when there is a wedding to attend, then you 
force your husband to buy you a new set of clothing, because 
you want to wear a new outfit to maintain your status amongst 
the other women. There is no status and honour in clothing! 
Status can be found in pleasing Allah Ta'ala. An honourable 
person is he/she, with whom Allah Ta'ala is pleased. I recall a 
couplet Of Allama Sayyid Sulaiman Nadwi (^ejiilzfj). Such a 
great Buzurg (saint) has mentioned the following couplet, 

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Whether we live like this or like that (in this world), 

There (in the Hereafter) we will see 

how we (actually) lived. 

My respected mothers, sisters and daughters! Think about this, 
that what will our value be on the Day of Qiyamah. You wore 
beautiful clothing. A few women praised you. "Sister! What 
beautiful clothing you have worn!" Then you become proud 
and bloated. By the praises of these women, you become so 
happy and ecstatic, without the slightest concern of your worth 
in the sight of Allah Ta'ala, whereas to wear (beautiful) clothing 
with the intention of showing off one's status is something 
intensely disliked by Allah Ta'ala. 

There was once a girl who was about to get married. Her 
friends dressed her up and beautified her. Then all of them said 
to her, "Sister! Today you are looking absolutely beautiful." 
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When I get married and my husband is pleased when he looks 
at me, only then will I be happy." On hearing this incident, one 
Allah-Wala (Friend of Allah Ta'ala) began to weep and said, 
"O people of this world! No matter how much you praise me, 
this will be of no benefit to me." On the Day of Qiyamah, when 
Allah Ta'ala is happy with us, then on that day we can consider 
that we have acquired some value. Why are we hankering after 
the praises of people?Thus, you should listen to the command 
of Shari'ah, i.e. to go in simple clothing. To wear clothing for a 
second time does not negatively affect a person's status in any 
way. To wear beautiful clothing and to go to such gatherings 
where the gazes of strange men will fall upon you is also 
contrary to the demands of honour and self-respect, and is also 
against the dictates of precaution. Furthermore, to demand 
new clothes all the time is oppression upon the husband. For 
example, if there are four weddings in a month, then in spite of 
having twenty sets of clothing in the cupboard, a demand is 
made upon him to bring four more new sets. If your husband is 
a Molvi, and earns a very modest salary, then this poor person 
will be facing a disaster. The wives of Molvis should be even 
more considrate in this regard. 

© THE CORRECT AVENEUE 

FOR UTILIZING WEALTH 

However, If your husband is wealthy, he is a businessman, then 
take this same money and give it to the poor. Use this money 
to get a poor girl married. Aid and assist the poor. Give charity. 
Spend it on some Masjid or Madrasah. Get the daughter of a 
poor Molvi married. He earns such a paltry amount in any case, 
so use this money to help this Aalim. This money will become 
a means of benefit for you. This money will be transferred to 
a foreign exchange account. On the Day of Qiyamah, you will 
receive the reward of it. When you are going for Hajj, are you 
not concerned about purchasing Riyals? Do you not worry 
about taking some foreign exchange? So when we pass away 
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There, the assistance rendered to the poor will benefit one. 
Transfer a lot of currency, and pay special attention to getting 
the daughters of Ulama married, because the salaries of the 
Ulama are generally low, and here it is also low. He earns barely 
enough to survive. After meeting his expenses how much 
remains? How will he ever get his daughter married? If Allah 
Ta'ala has blessed you (with material wealth), then assist the 
Ulama of your local Masjid. Today if South Africans get the 
daughters of the Ulama married, and give them gifts so they 
can make a home, then Insha-Allah, you will see how (easily) 
you will acquire Jannah. Today, we see that the poor Ulama are 
earning pittance, and the rich man is unable to fulfil his needs 
with ten thousand rands. They say, "Moulanal Please make 
Du'a of Barakah (blessings) for us, that we become wealthy 
and that we earn twenty thousand rands." Then too he cannot 
manage to meet his expenses. If the poor Molvi asks for an 
increase of five hundred rands, then the committee makes a big 
noise. Ask the members of the committee, "What are your monthly 
expenses?" Therefore, my mothers sisters and daughters, I was 
saying that if Allah Ta'ala has bestowed you with a lot of wealth, 
then too do not request for new clothing. Spend this money 
for Allah's sake. Take part in arranging the marriages of the 
Imam, the Mu'azzin and the Ulama of Deen of your Masjid. 
Be concerned about having houses built for them. 

£o) BEFORE MARRIAGE, IT IS HARAAM 

FOR A GIRL TO MEET HER FINANCE 

After coming here, I was deeply saddened to find out, that after 
becoming proposed, and before the marriage even take place, 
people allow their daughters to come in front of their finances. 
They allow their daughters to be alone with their finances and 
send them on outings with them as well. Understand this well, 
that after the engagement has taken place, and unless and 
until the Nikah has taken place it will not permissible for the 
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place, he will remain a non-Mahram, and it is completely 
impermissible to allow your daughter to come in front of him. 
It is a major sin and also an act which is devoid of honour and 
self respect. If you are concerned, then make the Nikah quickly. 
In two minutes, the Nikah will take place. After the Nikah has 
taken place, then you may send your daughter to him. Just by 
being engaged, no person can send their daughter to serve 
tea to the future son-in-law, nor can she present herself before 
him unveiled. However, I have noticed here, that once the 
engagement has taken place, and the Nikah has not yet taken 
place, the girls are going in front of the future son-in-laws, 
serving them tea, and engaging in conversation. They speak 
in privacy and even worse she travels with him in privacy. Is this 
not a major sin? Are we not inviting the anger of Allah Ta'ala? 
This is the reason that nowadays, every person you look at is 
in distress. They are surrounded by problems and difficulties 
from every direction. There is abundance of wealth, but there is 
no peace and contentment. Those men and women who acquire 
pleasure from sins in this world, and those who disobey Allah 
Ta'ala will always remain in distress. No person can acquire 
peace and contentment from sins. Allah Ta'ala has kept peace 
and contentment in His Hands. Allah Ta'ala mentions in the 
Qur'aan Shareef: 

"Tranquillity of the heart is only found in 
the remembrance of Allah. " 

Thus, O people of Imaan, be it man or woman! It is solely 
through the remembrance of Allah Ta'ala that the hearts get 
comfort and tranquillity. Watching videos, frequenting the 
cinemas, appearing before strange men unveiled, sending 
your daughters to college, and allowing them to laugh and 
converse with Christian boys. This is all punishment from 
Allah Ta'ala. There is neither peace and tranquility for the 
boys and neither for the girls. You see for yourself! 

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The different types of sicknesses, the different types of problems 
that people are confronted with. Could there be a worse display 
of character than for us to anger and infuriate Allah Ta'ala, 
and send our children headlong into the fire of jahannaml On 
the one side you have performed Hajj and have become a Haji 
or Hajjan Amma and you are making Zikr in abundance, with 
Tasbeeh in hand, but your children are watching pronographic 
films on the TV and V.C.R., boys are going out with whichever 
girls they desire, and girls are going out with whichever boys 
they desire, they are eating out in restaurants, going out to 
parks, and are involved in all the different types of sins which 
are a direct consequence of not observing the laws of Purdahl 
The biggest thing upon which we should shed tears of blood, 
is that the engagement has taken place i.e. they have only 
spoken about getting married. As yet Nikah has not even taken 
place, and this boy is allowed to come in front of your daugh- 
ter to speak to her and roam around with her. 

Now tell me! What a great sin is this! It is strictly forbidden 
for a stranger male to look at someone's daughter and sister 
before getting married. To call future son-in-law to your house, 
and to allow your daughter to serve him tea, and for them to 
engage in conversation is a terrible sin! If you are in a hurry, 
then get hold of an Aalim, and get the Nikah performed. If 
you so desire, after two years you may send the girl to her 
husband's home. If you do not have clothing or jewellery at 
the moment, and if you fear a backlash from society, you fear 
the creation, then delay sending your daughter to her 
husband's home. Otherwise, if you had the fear of Allah 
Ta'ala, then you would have sent your daughter off with 
simplicity.in conformance with the Sunnah by giving her one 
set of clothing. Anyhow, make Nikah immediately so that your 
daughter's meeting this boy, staying together with him, going 
out with him etc. all become permissible, because after the 
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epidemic is rife. Many boys ask me, "My future father-in-law and 
mother-in-law are inviting me to eat at their home, and speak 
to their daughter. (What should we do?)" I inform them of the 
Mas'alah (religious injuction), that from a Shar'i perspective, 
this is totally impermissible. Unless and untill the Nikah takes 
place, then to speak to this girl, to look at her, or to touch her 
is a major sin, and completly impermissible, and is an avenue 
for causing the wrath and anger of Allah Ta'ala to descend. 

Because of these sins taking place, there is no peace and 
contentment nowadays. Wherever you look, there is only 
distress and discomfort. Fifty years ago, poor people who 
owned just a small portion of land, when their son grew 
up, they did not have worries and concerns. Allah Ta'ala 
gave them such blessings in sustenance that twenty to twenty 
five year-old youngsters had the time to play Kabaddi (a 
game played in India and Pakistan). Today, everybody is 
earning but expenses are not being met. I have seen this 
with my very own eyes, that one person had only a few 
hundred feet of land, and the youngsters were busy playing 
Kabaddi. There used to be such Barakat (blessings) that 
on this small piece of land, there used to be buffaloes and 
cows. They would be drinking milk, and eating yougart. 
Today, every youngster in every home is earning, yet there 
is no peace of mind. Peace and contentment has been 
snatched away from the entire world. Peace and contentment 
is solely in the control of Allah Ta'ala. Whoever will keep 
Allah Ta'ala happy, Allah Ta'ala will also keep him happy, 
and whoever will displease Allah Ta'ala, then Allah Ta'ala 
will cause distress to his heart. Think about this! 

@ WITHOUT NECESSITY, DO NOT CONVERSE 
WITH NON-MAHRAMS (STRANGE MEN) 

Now listen to one more thing. Women should not speak to 
strange men without necessity, nor should they allow men to 
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people of the locality hear her. If out of necessity, she has to 

speak to a Non-Mahram (a male with whom Nikah is permissible), 
then she should not speak in a soft alluring tone. Regarding 
the wives of Nabi (4aMiu) the following verse was revealed. 

"O the wives of Nabi (i^J^,)! 
Do not speak in soft, alluring tones. " 

That is, if due to necessity, one has to speak to any Non- 
Mahram males, then do not speak in your natural soft voice. 
Intentionally make your voice gruff, i.e. change your natural 
manner of speaking and then talk. The Sahaba {fa\J°j) were 
commanded that if they had to ask any of the wives of Nabi 
(4^4ili-») for something, then they should do so from behind 
a veil. It should not be such that they look inside the veil and 
ask, like in today's times, the principals of some of the girl's 
Madrasas open the doors of the classrooms, and look inside 
and speak to the girls, whereas Allah Ta'ala had told the 
Sahaba (^%ij°j): 

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"And when you ask of them (i.e. the wives of Nabi i^J^), 
then ask of them from behind a veil. " 

(Surah Ahzaab; Para, 22) 

For example, if you need to do a business transaction or if there 
is any other necessity, then ask from behind a veil or barrier. 

I have seen with my own eyes in a girl's Madrasa, the principal 
sticking his head through the Purdah area, clearly looking at 
the girls and talking to them. I asked him, "Are these girls not 
Non-Mahram?" Is it not obligatory to observe Purdah from them? 
By being the principal, does this mean that you now have the 
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IMPORTANT GUIDELINES 
REGARDING GIRL'S MADRASAS 

@ By reviewing the Madrasatul Banaat (girl's Madrasa) of 
South Africa, India and Reunion etc., I have come to this 
conclusion that there is more precaution and safety in not 
establishing a Darul Iqamah (boarding facility) for the 
girls. There is a great (evil) and temptation in this. The 
girls should study during the day, and then go home. 

{2} The girls should only be taught by female teachers. Male 
teachers should not even teach from behind a veil. Many 
evils have occurred because of this. 

@ The principal should not speak or give advices directly to 
the female teachers. When it comes to matters regarding 
giving guidelines and advice to the female teachers, or 
matters pertaining to salaries etc. then it is of utmost 
importance that such messages should be conveyed via 
one's wife, aunt (who is a Mahram) or one's daughter. By 
the principal or principal's sons or male teachers speaking 
directly to females, there is fear that instead of being 
involved in the affairs of the Madrasatul Banaat, one 
can become involved in Ishaul Banaat (the love of girls). 

@ Effort should be made to see that the students aged five to 
nine should learn how to recite the Qur'aan correctly whilst 
looking inside (Nazirah), together with the memorization 
of Qur'aan. They should also study the four parts of Taleemul- 
Islam as well as Bahishti Zewar. This will be sufficient for 
them. If they want to introduce an Aalimah course, then 
let them complete a brief syllabus of Arabic. However, the 
strict adherence to Purdah is an utmost necessity. Other- 
wise, it is better for the girls to suffice on perfecting their 
recitation of the Qur'aan, and studying books like Bahishti- 
Zewar, Hikayat-e-Sahaba, {fasifj) etc. The teachers should 
also be females who observe strict Shar'i Purdah. 

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® In the Aalimah course, the girls should also be taught 
regarding the rights and respect of the husband. A boy 
who is an Aalim should be sought for marriage. If the boy 
is not an Aalim, then it is necessary that he should be 
pious and Deen/'-concious, irrespective of whether he is 
a doctor or engineer. 

® Throughout the entire girls Madrasa, the contact of 
females should only be with females. The principal should 
find out about the conditions regarding the Madrasa, 
such as teaching and administration via a Mahram like 
one's wife, mother or sister. If one does not have this 
much courage (to arrange such facilities), then do not 
establish a girl's Madrasa in the first place, or close down 
the existing one. For the benefit of others, don't tread the 
path which will lead you to Jahannam. Even if it is for 
the benefit of the creation, to teach girls or women, even 
from behind a Purdah is not devoid of Fitnah (evil). From 
experience, we have come to know, that those who converse 
with females from behind a veil, have also fallen in love 
with these women (Ishqe-Majazi). Therefore, the path of 
safety and salvation is that in every possible way, we should 
stay far away from women. 

<§) THE LAWS REGARDING 

NAIL POLISH AND LIPSTICK 

Another im portant Mas'alah that I wish to inform you about 
is regarding those women who use nail polish. As long as 
this nail polish is not removed, Salaah will not be correct, 
because Wudu does not take place due to this nail polish 
(because it prevents water from reaching the nail). Similarly, 
as long as lipstick is not removed from the lips, Wudu will 
also not take place. Therefore, think properly! Get rid of such 
nail polish. Curse such polish! If your heart desires, you may 
apply Mendhi on your finger-nails. By nail polish, Wudu does 
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My mothers, sisters and daughters! For Allah Ta'ala's sake, 
have mercy on yourselves. Save yourselves from the punishment 
of the grave. Allah Ta'ala can call you at any time. Death has 
to come some time or the other. Every person has to go to the 
graveyard. Therefore, abstain from applying nail polish and 
lipstick. I have been informed that those women who apply nail 
polish, do not remove it before performing Wudu, therefore the 
Wudu does not take place at all, due to which Salaah is also 
invalid. 

© WOMEN WHO CUT THEIR HAIR ARE 
INVITING THE CURSE OF ALLAH TA'ALA 
AND RASULULLAH (4^4.) UPON THEMSELVES 

Similarly, nowadays, some girls are cutting their hair like males. 
Rasulullah (4#4M has mentioned that the curse of Allah 
Ta'ala is upon those women who imitate men, or wear clothing 
like men, as well as those men who imitate women. Thirteen 
points have been mentioned so far. 

(K) WOMEN SHOULD COVER 

THEIR SHINS AND ANKLES 

Now listen to the fourteenth point. It is Haraam (strictly 
forbidden) for women to expose their shin. Nowadays, girls 
are wearing long dresses but they are leaving their shins 
exposed, whereas women should cover their ankles as well. It 
is compulsory for the men to leave their ankles exposed. It is 
Haraam for them to cover their ankles, but for women, the 
ruling is that they should cover their ankles. Therefore, those 
women who expose their shins are inviting the curse of Allah 
Ta'ala upon themselves. The punishment of Allah Ta'ala can 
descend at any time. 

(5) OBSERVING PURDAH IN FRONT OF 
ONE'S BROTHER-IN-LAW 

The fifteenth advice is that it is necessary to make Purdah 
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absolutely necessary to make Purdah from him. Once a woman 
enquired from Nabi (-^aMjfu), "Should we make Purdah from 
our brother-in-laws?" Rasulullah (4^4!^) replied, "The 
brother-in-law is death." That is just as you fear death, you 
should fear your brother-in-law. You should take great care 
and precaution. Nowadays, due to women not observing 
Purdah in front of their brother-in-laws many evils are occurring. 
Some brother-in-laws have even began thinking, that half the 
women is my brother's wife, and the other half is mine! He 
regards fifty percent to be his right. In Islam, where is there 
room for such things? Be very careful with your husband's 
brother. Observe Purdah. If the brother gets angry, then let 
him get angry. Make Allah Ta'ala happy. 

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@ Do not worry if the whole world is against you, 
The pleasure of the Beloved(i.e. Allah Ta'ala) 
should be at the fore. 

@ After evaluating this view, then you decide, 

What should you do or what should you not do? 

Men should not allow their women to look at their brothers, 
and they should not be concerned if their brothers get angry. 
After all, the husband's brother is the blood-relative of the 
husband, not the woman. If the men are fostering good 
family ties with their brothers, then what is the need to 
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OBSERVING PURDAH FROM 
ONE'S SISTER-IN-LAW 
In a similar manner, the husband is also commanded to 
observe Purdah from his wife's sister i.e. his sister-in-law. 
The husband should not be allowed to come in front of her, 
without observing Purdah. Generally, the sister-in-law is of a 
young age. How many people have fallen in love with the 
sister-in-law, and fallen into great evil? Therefore, it is also 
Fard (obligatory) upon the husband to observe "Purdah" from 
his sister-in-law when she comes in front of him. He should 
not engage in conversation with her. These are all major sins 
and are completely forbidden. She must stay with her sister 
and not come in front of her sister's husband. If one's wife 
has gone out, then it is not permissible for him to remain in 
seclusion with his sister-in-law. 

<g) COMMAND FOR PURDAH 

OF THE HAIR 

The sixteenth advice: It is obligatory for women to conceal 
their hair.The Salaah of women who wear such thin Dupattas 
(scarf worn over the head and shoulders by women) through 
which the blackness of the hair becomes apparent, is not valid. 
Therefore, my mothers, sisters and daughters! Understand 
this well. If by wearing a thick Dupatta, you feel hot during 
the summer months, then keep a special thick Dupatta for 
Salaah through which the blackness of the hair cannot be 
seen. This will be sufficient. I am by no means saying that you 
should wear a sack over your head! lam showing you an easy 
solution. In my house, I have told my wife and daughter-in-law 
the same thing, that for Salaah, they should keep a separate 
Dupatta which is so thick, that the blackness of the hair 
cannot be seen through it. Understand this Mas'alah well, 
that if your hair can be seen through your Dupatta, then your 
Salaah is not valid. 

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(it) the impermissibility of wearing 
thin transparent clothing 

Advice number seventeen. To wear such thin, transparent 
clothing that your chest, back or legs can be seen is Haraam 
and a major sin. 

(l§) WEARABURQAWHEN 

LEAVING THE HOME 

Advice number eighteen. It is not permissible for a woman to 
remove her Burqah (cloak) because of heat, and roam about 
in the market places with her face exposed. If you need to go 
somewhere, then leave the home wearing a Burqa. Do not 
leave the house without wearing a Burqa. Get the menfolk to 
purchase items of necessity from the shops. Women should 
not leave their homes except in case of extreme necessity. In a 
similar manner, to send ten year-old girls to school, dressed 
in uniforms is also not permissible. Hakeemul Ummat Hazrat 
Thanwi ( Ji^\-jj) has mentioned that girls should be encouraged 
to observe Purdah from the age of seven. Gradually get them 
into the habit. After this, when she reaches the age of ten, then 
do not allow her to go out at all without Purdah. As the days pass 
by, how many new evils are appearing! Girls are being led astray. 
Here, Christian boys are enticing our Muslim girls. They are 
marrying Hindu boys. This is all the result of not observing Purdah. 
Nowadays, a new trend is emerging, that whenever there is a 
new resturant, the boys and girls go and meet there, and find 
marriage partners on their own. They begin to like each other. 
The boy hears the girl's manner of speaking, and thinks that 
her speech is so captivating and that her figure is so nice. All 
these things are Haraam and are all major sins. To send your 
daughters out with Non-Mahram males, is equivalent to handing 
them over to predators. That is why I implore you to study 
Bahishti Zewar, and to practise upon it. You will acquire Jannah 
Insha-Allah. That is why it has been given the name Bahishti 
Zewar, (Heavenly ornaments) because it a prescription for 
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FROM WHO SHOULD ONE 
OBSERVE SHAR'I PURDAH 

It is Wajib (compulsory) to observe Purdah from your maternal 
and paternal cousions i.e. the sons of your maternal uncles 
(Mamu), the sons of your paternal uncles (Chacha), the sons 
of your maternal aunts (Khala), the sons of your paternal 
aunts (Phoopl). However, in today's time there is no concern 
for this in the homes of even those who are regarded as pious. 
In a similar manner, it is also (compulsory) for men to observe 
Purdah from their maternal and paternal cousins i.e. (the 
daughters of both maternal and paternal aunts and uncles). If 
anyone becomes upset with you because of observing Purdah, 
then let them become upset. Make Allah Ta'ala happy. 

Sixteen years after coming to Pakistan, when I went to llahabad, 
then my mother's sister's daughters wanted to come in front 
of me. I said to them, "What are you doing?" Beware! Nobody 
come in front of me! Stay behind the Purdahl Do not worry! 
Whatever gifts I have to give, I will give it." I gave all their 
children five orten rupees, and I gave my cousins one hundred 
rupees, just so that they do not think that those who become 
pious, observe Purdah in order to save money and these 
Moulanas are stingy people. For the respect of Islam and the 
beard, I gave them lots of money so that they do not speak 
ill of the Molvis, and the greatness of Deen can be instilled 
in their hearts. By my giving them gifts, they were all happy. 
Thereafter, I explained to them in a nice manner, that my 
love for them was in my heart, but what could I do?This was 
the command of Allah Ta'ala and Rasulullah (4#4M- So ' 
said to them, "O my cousins! It is Wajib (compulsory) for me 
to observe Purdah from you." In essence, it is compulsory to 
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EMPLOYMENT 

A MEANS OF DISGRACE FOR A WOMEN 

Ah! That Islam which has given women so much of respect, 
that for the sake of protecting her chastity, even some of her 
blood relatives have to observe Purdah from her, and that 
Islam which has made the woman the queen of her house, and 
has kept her in home with respect and dignity, today the very 
people who claim to be adherents of this great religion, have 
disgraced their mothers and sisters in front of Non-Mahrams 
by making them work in airports, stations, on airplanes and in 
the radio stations. On the airplanes, they have been given the 
title of air hostess, but actual fact they have been made slaves 
of the strange men whom they serve on the planes. She has to 
make concentrated effort to make her voice sweet and charm- 
ing. Who can be greaterthan the wives of Rasulullah (i^aMifu), 
in respect of whom the following verse of the Qur'aan was 
revealed. 

"Do not speak in soft alluring tones. " 

i.e. Make a concentrated effort to change your voice and then 
speak. Otherwise what will happen? 

"So that the one whose heart is sick will desire. " 

Such a person whose heart is sick, will begin harbouring evil 
thoughts in his mind. But you have seen the manner in which 
these women deliver the news over the radio, that a man's 
heart starts to become inclined towards them. The condition in 
the airports is exactly the same. When they tell you the times of 
the flights, then it seems that they are only speaking to attract 
these men towards themselves. Never mind the disbelievers, 
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to take up such jobs is completely against their honour and 
dignity. Besides the commands of Shar'iah, it is against the 
natural honour and dignity of any woman to take up a 
disgraceful occupation. 

Whatever I have mentioned in my lecture, Insha-Allah, you 
will find it written in Behishti Zewar. That is why I say, "Study 
Behishti Zewar." Insha-Allah, by the mercy of Allah Ta'ala, 
you will go to Jannat. After going to Jannat, you will make 
Du'a that a certain Mulla (Aalim) came from Karachi, and this 
is what he had to say. 

DU'A 

Now let us make Du'a. 

® May Allah Ta'ala grant us the ability to practise. 

@ May He grant us, our mothers, daughters and sisters the 

ability to make Shar'i Purdah. 
® May Allah Ta'ala purify our homes from the curse of 

T.V. and V.C.R. 

® May He grant us the ability to abstain from sending our 
girls to school after the age of ten without observing 
Shar'i Hijaab. 

® O Allah! Have mercy upon the Ummah of Muhammad 
(isgldjjlj*), upon the Ummah of Sayyidur-Rusul (^sH^)- 

® O Allah! What is happening today? Only the name of 
Islam has remained. Today, Islam is being snatched away 
from us. Day and night, how are women and girls walking 
around on the streets unveiled! 

® O Allah! grant us all the Taufeea (ability to practise). 

® O Allah! grant us Your fear. 

® O Allah! Whatever has been mentioned, accept it through 
Your mercy and grant me, my mothers, sisters and daughters 
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® O Allah! Grant us the remembrance of death in our 
hearts. Place the remembrance of the life of the grave 
in our hearts. Instil the fear in our hearts, that on the 
Day of Qiyamah, we have to stand before Allah Ta'ala, 
and grant us the fear of the fire of Jahannam. 

® O Allah! Grant us conviction of all these things. Make 
both our Dunya and Aakhirah (succesful). 

® O Allah! In those homes in which Shar'i Purdah is 
observed, grant their daughters pious husbands. Those 
parents who teach their daughters Behishti Zewar, make 
them pious. O Allah! Grant these girls pious husbands. 
Grant them husbands who are concious of Deen. And O 
Allah! Those men who are keeping beards, grant them 
pious wives. 

@ O Allah! Grant us peace and comfort in this world and 
the Hereafter. 

® O Allah! Keep us alive with good health and strong 
imaan. Take us away from this world with good health 
and strong Imaan. Make our worldly life in this foreign 
land successful and beautify our Hereafter which is our 
true homeland. 

@ O Allah ! You are the Sovereign Master of both the worlds, 
this world and the Hereafter. Adorn both our Dunya 
and Aakhirat. O Allah! You are Our Sovereign Master! 
A father tries to keep his children in comfort in a foreign 
place, and back in his homeland he has worry and 
concern about building a house and buildings forthem. 

@ O Allah! You are our Rabb (Lord and Sustainer)! You have 
sent us into this foreign place. Make our worldly life such 
that we can live in comfort, so that we can remember You 
in abundance, and we can abstain from disobeying You. 
Build our homeland i.e. Jannah as well. Let us pass 
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Judgement without reckoning, and grant us, our mothers, 
sisters and daughters entry into Jannat. 

O Allah! Through Your Infinite Mercy, forgive our sins. 
Uptill now, whatever sins we have committed, forgive us 
and grant us the (ability to live the) life of an Allah-Wala. 
Grant us steadfastness on Deen. Bless this home, and 
the people who have called us and made arrangements 
so that we can impart the message of Allah Ta'ala and 
Rasulullah (4#4^»)- 

O Allah! Accept those who have called us here. Grant 
me acceptance, and accept the advices which I have 
imparted. Accept those women who have come to listen, 
and grant all of us Your love. 

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